The weaker sex U-turns to Victorianism

So much for independent women.

A blogess passes this on from 29-year-old NYT writer Miss Courtney Sender:

[O]ur age gap somehow seemed a lot larger than five years. Not because he acted especially young. It was more that when it came to sex and foreplay, he acted so differently from guys my age, asking for my consent about nearly everything.

“Is it O.K. if we go to the bedroom?” he said.

I smiled and led him there.

He tugged at the hem of my sweater and said, “Is it O.K. if I take this off?”

I nodded. Underneath I was wearing a thin tank top.

“Can I take this off, too?” he said.

The second time he was in my bedroom, he paused with his hand at the zipper of my dress. “Is this O.K.?” he said….

Wasn’t that the beautiful thing he was teaching me, that we could be fully human to each other, checking in, honoring yes and respecting no?…

While he was waiting for his Uber to arrive, he said he would cook me dinner next time: steak with sautéed mushrooms and a fig-balsamic reduction.

I texted him a few times in the days that followed, playfully at first, then more pressing. He ignored me.

Asking about my feelings during sex didn’t extend to caring about them after sex. Consent is not a contract of continuation.

But in the days and weeks after, I was left thinking that our culture’s current approach to consent is too narrow. A culture of consent should be a culture of care for the other person, of seeing and honoring another’s humanity and finding ways to engage in sex while keeping our humanity intact. It should be a culture of making each other feel good, not bad.

And if that’s the goal, then consent doesn’t work if we relegate it exclusively to the sexual realm. Our bodies are only one part of the complex constellation of who we are. To base our culture of consent on the body alone is to expect that caretaking involves only the physical.

So meaningless sex, even with all appropriate “consent by stages” leaves a young woman feeling cheap and betrayed. Quell surprise. She wants flowers and candy afterwards and if not forthcoming, it wasn’t truly consensual. Sorry, honey, but it was your type, and your generation, that insisted on this freedom to fuck around; you want a genuine, mutually-respectful relationship, try to refrain from casual hook-ups.

We’re seeing an increasing demand for “female-oriented” math and science programs, all-girl schools, and even segregated dormitories, which all suggests that the latest crop of females is whining for the good old days with paternal, protective father figures, chaperones, and a restoration of an age where women are sheltered and protected from men. I have two daughters who are Cortney Sender’s age and they, and their mother, would utterly reject this regression, but the more I read of modern campus life, the more I believe that a new generation of women is self-condemning itself to permanent victimhood.

Sad.

Still More: Comedian’s appearance on Jimmy Fallon show cancelled after show’s senior producers burst into tears. Seriously: there’s a group of women out there holding jobs and taking up space in universities when they should be behind convent walls instead.




Two days ahead of arrival, they're already blaming Trump for Hurricane Florence

If only he’d stopped the chinese from building a new coal plant every week! Or something.

If only he’d stopped the chinese from building a new coal plant every week! Or something.

Why? Because … er, Trump, according to Washington Post.

And this:

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With more than 48 hours before Hurricane Florence is expected to make landfall Democrats are already listing the causes of President Trump’s “poor response” to the aftermath.
Democratic Illinois Rep Luis Gutierrez, appearing on “All In” with Chris Hayes on MSNBC Tuesday night, attacked President Trump for not being “prepared” for Hurricane Florence.

Gutierrez said, “You know what I fear, is the calamity, because of the lack of coordination of the government, with the National Guard, and with local government. The lack of responsiveness and preparedness of this government, because the president wants to find out who was the one that wrote that op-ed piece about the chaos in the White House.”

Gutierrez added, “He’s (Trump) so consumed by the calamity in the chaos that exists, he’s not really prepared and focused, because he spends every weekend golfing, instead of preparing.”

And this. I may make this running thread as the media builds up its Florence efforts.

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I love Mead Point, but even with a price cut, I don't get this house

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569 Indian Field Road, which started in May, 2017 at $4.1 million, has now dropped to $3.6. It’s a functionally obsolete house on 0.9 acres in a 2-acre zone, which limits new construction to a maximum FAR of 3,528 sq. ft., including garage, etc., and its existing 4,510 sq. ft. seems irredeemable.

Obviously, that’s just one man’s opinion, but so far, the marketplace has echoed my sentiments, so …..

What will the true value of this house prove to be? I don’t know, but I’m guessing today’s price cut won’t be its last.

Calipygian R not us

Calipygian R not us

I do believe that’s a non-venting range: I’d expect better at this price

I do believe that’s a non-venting range: I’d expect better at this price

Washer/dryer in the garage? Really?

Washer/dryer in the garage? Really?

A (relative) bargain in Deer Park

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9 Woodside Road, asked $6.475 million and has sold for $6.6 million.Ordinarily, I don’t think “winners” of bidding was win anything, but in this case, I think we’ve found the exception to that rule.

A gracious, classic Deer Park home, it sold for $8.7 million in 2006, was renovated and resold for $10.950 in 2008, then sold for just $7.730 in 2011, a price decline that — guessing here — could be attributed to the post 2008 crash. It started in the $10s, then sold direct to this seller later that year.

In the present case, the sale is a post-divorce situation (that’s not inside dirt, just public records), and often money is less important than a clean break. From the pictures, both parties have vacated the premises.

I think the new owners did well.

And on the other side of Old Mill ...

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5 Old Round Hill (nee Old Mill), is new at $11.45 million. Pretty impressive, 15,000 sq. ft. house, it sold new in 2007 for $11.2 million in 2007, resold for $10.375 in 2013, and now it’s back, looking for that same $11 million bracket.

It could make it: it’s a good-looking mansion, but my sense of the market is that there’s a very shallow pool of buyers for 15,000 square foot, ultra-priced homes.

We’ll see.

Plenty of Zebra going for it

Plenty of Zebra going for it

This is rich

Jim Carrey urges fellow Democrats to "stop apologizing and say yes to socialism".

Well, that would (will) be fun. Carrey is apparently unaware that his socialist friends call for worker control of all business decisions, such as what product will be produced, and while masterpieces like “Dumb and Dumber” will surely be safe for sequels, the actors selected for roles will be chosen by committees, as well as their salaries. I’m guessing that the extras, food vendors and makeup-artists will hold a different view of Carrey’s worth than he does.

In the linked-to article, Carrey whines that he’s sick and tired of making movies “by committee”. Oh, won’t he be disappointed in the coming utopia.